A transcript of my Guest of Honor, F-word speech
So, after a long silence and confirming over email, I am indeed giving this talk. Lesson no. 1, never doubt yourself. When even you don’t believe in yourself, everyone else around you believes you are much better than what you think you are. Don’t ever shortchange yourself, and sometimes you are your biggest enemy. Not your parents, not your teacher, not that guy in the class who keeps scoring better than you. And lesson no. 2, do not assume. The famous saying goes you make an ass out of you and me. Be doubly sure about anything, everything.
Simply put, no one else believed in us. Our products were horrible, and useless. We developed something based on our wildest imagination, and they turned out to be the wildest failures. But you know what, this turns out to be the biggest achievement, and blessings (after having a mum like mine). I am extremely proud to have failed, truly and authentically. If there is a certificate or a badge of honor for failing, I would proudly wear in on my chest or my head. Without these failures, I wouldn’t be where I am today, because that’s how I learn. If you are a gamer like I was, that’s in fact the best way to learn how to play a certain game – by failing and trying again and again. So here it is, lesson no. 4, it’s okay to fail, as long as you learn from it and take advantage of your failures. Some of you would have heard of the game Angry Birds, but very little of you would have know they have failed for 51 times prior to that.
2 disciples went to Socrates for advice. The first one was getting a divorce, and asked Socrates what he should do. Socrates said wisely, “If she was a bad wife, good on you, she will be leaving you. If she was a good wife, good on you, you had a good wife.” The second one was getting married, and asked Socrates the same question. Socrates replied, “If she will be a good wife, good on you, you will be blessed. If she will be a bad wife, good on you, you will become a philosopher.”